THE POWER OF EMPATHY and COMPASSION

By now, most of us have witnessed the destruction and horror that is taking place in Gaza.  The situation there is dire and has engaged many to debate the ongoing conflict.  I have engaged in debates with friends using social media like; Facebook and Twitter.  I have engaged in civil conversations about this issue but have also been on the receiving end of harsh criticism.  I have been called anti-Semitic, I have been told that I don’t know what I am talking about and that I don’t understand the history of the conflict.  My views have been taken out of context and in order for me to conform to a certain ideology – I my lifestyle was forced into the debate.

As I do not want to further create hostilities and engage in a debate of who is wrong or right, I want to clearly state my position of how I feel about this conflict and many others like it around the world:

“I am not PRO ISRAEL or PRO HAMAS.  I DO NOT agree with acts of terrorism and terrorist factions.  I DO NOT need to understand the history of this conflict in order to have empathy and compassion for those who are dying from the conflict.  I STAND FOR PEACE, LOVE and an end to this violence and the death of many innocent people.  That is my stand on this issue.”

I am not alone in my feelings about this – I have talked with many colleagues (of many different nationalities/religions) and most seem to agree that one IS NOT anti-Semitic just because they have empathy and compassion for innocent people dying.

Throughout my spiritual journey, I have found that being positive, loving, compassionate and empathetic allows one to live a more positive and happier life.  Sometimes it is difficult to engage in debate with people who don’t have those characteristics as it may be difficult for them to see ‘the other viewpoint’.  The lesson I have learned is that it is sometimes better to stop the debate than to allow the negativity and if the negativity continues – remove it.  What good will it do you and your state of mind by engaging in never-ending arguments in matters that even governments can’t solve?

Here are some statements and questions I have asked myself in order to live more positively:

  • Do not watch negative news or read negative newspapers.
  • Ask yourself:  Is (whatever situation) creating negative feelings within you?
  • What positive outcome can come from arguing?
  • Can you have a sensible and positive debate?
  • Are my personal feelings getting in the way of positive debate?
  • I live from LOVE and if I give LOVE, I will also receive LOVE.
  • Live with compassion, empathy and LOVE.
  • Treat others as you want to be treated.
  • Try not to judge others.

The above statements and questions have allowed me to recognize those who bring negative energy into my life.  With that recognition, I have been able to assess whether or not I want to move forward and have that energy in my life.  Usually, the answer is no, which I am perfectly comfortable with.  I remove the energy with love and hold no hard feelings towards those who harbour that energy.

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Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

THE BIBLE MYTHOLOGY

Every time I think of religion, my thoughts and visions are filled with violence, fear, anxiety, exclusiveness, and mythology.  I was raised Catholic, studied to become Jehovah’s Witnesses (my parents decided to try a new religious view), and went to a High School that had a mostly non-practicing Jewish student body.  I haven’t really had a big interest in religious studies – I only knew what my parents knew of religion and what I studied as a Jehovah’s Witness.   If I didn’t practice religion enough and don’t identify with any organized religion, is it fair of me to criticize those that do?  Before I answer that, let me tell you what I do know about religion and my personal accounts in dealing with those that have attempted to convert me into their following.

I was taught to have a fear for God and to ensure you follow God’s rules otherwise, I would end up in Hell.  Think about that for a moment – ‘Instill the fear of God’ into people.  Shouldn’t a God encompass values that He would like to see in His flock like love, compassion, empathy and patience?  Shouldn’t God be proud of His people’s desire to seek out the truth and to ask questions if they don’t understand or believe something to be true?  Well I had many questions – questions that never have been answered.  I have dealt with religious people who condemn me because of my homosexuality – as God made me.  I have been involved in endless debate about my sin being a much bigger sin than all others (again referring to my homosexuality).  I see so much hypocrisy in what I call the ‘celebrities of religion’ pandering to a congregation that funds their lavish lifestyle’s all in the name of religion and God (Jim Baker, Joel Olsteen, Pat Robertson, Rick Warren, Billy Graham, Howard and Roberta Ahmanson, David Barton, Benny Hinn).  I have read and seen movies based on the wars brought on in the name of religion.  I have been outraged at how many religious institutions protect criminals who are known sexual offenders, rapists and pedophiles and allow this behaviour to continue.

Religion is mythology to me – I can’t distinguish the difference between the stories I have read relating to Greek mythology versus the stories that are noted in The Bible.  Is it no wonder that Costco was recently in the news for placing The Bible in their ‘fiction’ section of books?  The stories I read in the bible were great – they seemed to fill people with hope and to allow people to come together for the greater good of humanity.  There were also those stories that ensured people were obedient and followed God’s laws, scary stories such as;  the story of Abraham and his devotion to God (God asked Abraham to show his devotion by asking him to call his son), the story of Noah’s Ark and Moses and the ten commandments.  All great stories, but very hard to treat them as non-fiction.

Here are some things I have questioned:

  • If Adam and Eve were the first, and they had two sons (Cain and Abel), how was it possible for the world to become populated?  The only sense I could make of this is that Cain and Abel were not Adam and Eve’s only children.
  • How was it possible for Noah to retrieve a male and female of every living animal on the planet to save them from extinction during the great flood.  Was he able to get sea creatures, insects, amphibians etc.?
  • If all was perfect in the Garden of Eden and as God wanted, why would God allow Satan to entice Eve?  Why Eve?  Where was Adam when Satan lured Eve with the forbidden fruit?
  • Why did God create a garden that included ‘forbidden fruit’?

Here are some Bible passages and versus that further convince me that the Bible was written by man as a means to control what they did not understand and feared:

Leviticus 11:  7 -8

***In reference to eating pork***

And the swine, though he divide the hoof, and be cloven footed, yet he cheweth not the cud;  he is unclean to you.

Of their flesh shall ye not eat, and their carcase shall ye not touch;  they are unclean to you.

As an animal activist and practicing vegan, this is great for the pig but, somewhere during history – Christians love for bacon, ham and pork sausages became less important than what was written in the bible.  Will pork-eating Christians not be allowed in the kingdom to come?

Leviticus 19:  28

***In reference to getting inked or tattoos***

Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you:  I am the LORD.

So all those who have pictures of the ‘virgin Mary’ or of Jesus himself – if you are serious in your quest to enter the Kingdom of God, have your tatts removed!  Even if it’s an hommage to your religious heroes/heroines.

Leviticus 19:  27

***In reference to “rounded haircuts”***

Ye shall not round the corners of your heads, neither shalt thou mar the corners of thy beard.

Does hair really matter in the afterlife?

Deuteronomy 23:  1

***In reference to injured men/men with their sexual organs removed***

He that is wounded in the stones, or hath his privy member cut off, shall not enter into the congregation of the LORD.

This is discriminatory and not very supportive of those who have a handicap.

Leviticus 19:  31

***In reference to psychics/wizards/witches***

Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them:  I am the LORD your GOD.

In the name of Christianity – pagans were put to death for worshiping the land and anyone who had a different religious belief other than Christianity – were tortured and put to death for their beliefs.  Not very Christian is it?

Leviticus 19:  16

***In reference to gossiping***

Thou shalt not go up and down as a tale bearer among thy people:  neither shalt thou stand against the blood of they neighbour; I am the LORD.

Was this verse created so that people would not question religious doctrine?  Or did the men that wrote the bible not like those back-stabbing gossips?

Deuteronomy 25:  11 – 12

***In reference to a man’s wife assisting in a physical altercation***

When man strive together one with another, and the wife of the one draweth near for to deliver her husband out of the hand of him that smiteth him, and putteth forth her hand, and taketh him by the secrets.

To me – this sounds like the men that are in conflict are showing weakness when accepting help from their wives.  How is that a weakness?  The statement is also very strange near the end “taketh him by the secrets” – sounds like that would hurt.

Exodus 21:  17

***In reference to children who curse at their parents***

And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.

Now, imagine a world where parents can kill their children for cursing at them.  If Christians took this verse literally – our jails would be overcrowded with those who deserved to be in there.

Mark 10:  11 – 12

***In reference to getting married after divorce***

Whosever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery:  and whosever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

Are the huge spikes in divorce in the last 50 years solely instigated by those who are not Christian?  Or are Christians happily married to their life partners even if they are not in love with them so that they ensure a place in the kingdom to come?

Exodus 31:  14 – 15

***In reference to working on the ‘holy’ day***

Ye shall keep the sabbath therefore; for it is holy unto you:  every one that defileth it shall surely be put to death:  for whosever doeth and work therein, that soul shall be cut off from among his people.

Six days may work be done; but in the seventh is the sabbath of rest, holy to the LORD:  whosever doeth any work in the sabbath day, he shall surely be put to death.

Having one day a week off is great – but you can only enjoy this day by worshiping the LORD – no ands, ifs, or buts!

Corinthians 14:  34 – 35

***In reference to women preaching the word of God***

Let you women keep silence in the churches:  for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.

And if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home:  for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

I know many women who have a problem with the misogynistic verse.  Women are not allowed to speak in churches and must obey their husbands – it’s shameful for women to speak in churches????  How archaic.  They should all be removed at once.

Leviticus 10 – 11

***In reference to shellfish***

And all that have not fins and scales in the seas, and in the rivers, of all that move in the waters , and of any living thing which is in the waters, they shall be an abomination unto you:

They shall be even an abomination unto you; ye shall not eat of their flesh, but ye shall have their carcase in abomination.

Again – I support this passage/verse because it saves many fish from death.  Christian seafood lovers everywhere – be mindful and follow the rules or else you will not enter the Kingdom of God.

Deuteronomy 22:  20 – 21

***In reference to a women losing her virginity prior to marriage***

But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel:

Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die:  because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house:  so shalt thou put evil away from among you.

WOW – this is harsh.  Still don’t think the Bible was written by men.  Again, another misogynistic verse…God forbid that a women loses her virginity prior to marriage.  That should be rightfully taken away by a man in marriage.  Does this verse apply to men as well?  Shouldn’t the women have the right to stone their husbands to death if they are not virgins at marriage?

Leviticus 18:  22

***In reference to homosexuality***

You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female, it is an abomination.

Funny how the misogynistic men that wrote this verse don’t say anything about women that lie with other women…….

All kidding and sarcasm aside….I don’t see how these passages are inclusive, compassionate and promote a positive community.  For me, these Bible quotes clearly support my notion that the Bible was written by men to control the population(s).  To ensure that people conformed to what would benefit those men in power.

I wrote this post today in hopes that people empower themselves to ask questions of those in authority.  Just because it is written doesn’t mean that it is TRUE!  Especially when the words that were written – were written in the blood of those who didn’t want to conform and live their lives in chains.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

PALESTINE = NON-MEMBER UN STATE

Thursday, November 29, 2012 – exactly 65 years after passing the Partition Plan for Palestine, the General Assembly voted by a huge majority to recognize Palestine within the 1967 borders as a non-member state with observer status in the organization.  138 countries voted in favour of the resolution, 41 abstained and 9 voted against:  United States, Canada, Czech Republic, Panama, The Marshall Islands, Palau, Nauru, and Micronesia – what do they know that the other 138 countries that voted in favour of the resolution don’t?  Isn’t the UN resolution a step to a peaceful resolution between Israel and Palestine and the Middle East?  Here are the reactions to from some of the countries that voted no:

“unfortunate and couterproductive…only through direct negotiations between the parties can the Palestines and Israelis achieve the peace that both deserve:  two states for people, with a sovereign, viable, independent Palestine living side by side in peace and security with a Jewish and democratic Israel.” Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton.

“The UN was founded to advance the cause of peace.  Today the Palestines are turning their back on peace.  Don’t let history record that today the UN helped them along on their march of folly.”Israeli Ambassador to the UN, Ron Prosor.

“The path to peace has historically rested in direct negotiations between the two parties to resolve all outstanding issues and it remains the same today.  Solutions can only come through the two sides working together….This resolution will not advance the cause of peace or spur a return to negotiations.  Will the Palestinian people be better off as a result? No.  On the contrary, this unilateral step will harden positions and raise unrealistic expectations while doing nothing to improve the lives of the Palestinian people.” – Foreign Affairs Minister, John Baird.

“Progress towards a just and lasting two-state solution cannot be made by pressing a green voting button here in this hall.”  – U.S. Ambassador to the UN, Susan Rice

Here is a brief History of the Arab-Israeli Conflict (http://www.guardian.co.uk/flash/0,,720353,00.html)

The Ottoman Empire

During the fourteenth century the Turkic peoples, who had moved west from the Steppes of central Asia, settled in the Anatolian peninsula (modern-day Turkey) and started to conquer surrounding states.  In 1516 they conquered the east coast of the Mediterranean.  At its zenith, about 1680, the Ottoman empire ran from Vienna to the Gulf and from the Caspian Sea to Morocco in north-west Africa.

1914 – 1918

The Ottoman sided with Germany during the first World War and the British supported an Arab revolt against the Ottomans promising them self-rule.  The British also promised the Jews a homeland in Palestine – the then foreign secretary, Lord Balfour, issuing a declaration in 1917. 

1918

The Arabs took over Syria led by Prince Faysal ibn Husayn of the Arabian Hashemite dynasty.  After the war, the League of Nations granted France and Britain control (‘mandates’) over former Ottoman territories.  France was given Syria; Britain got a mandate over what became Israel, the West Bank, the Gaza Strip and Jordan.

1921

The British divided their mandate in two – East of the river Jordan became the Emirate of Transjordan and was ruled by Faysal’s brother, ‘Abdullah.  West of the Jordan, became the Palestine mandate and remained under British control.

1930’s

Jewish immigration to the Holy Land, which had been going on since the 1880’s, increased just before the second World War due to the persecution of European Jews by the Nazis and subsequent Holocaust.  The local Arabs wanted to limit the numbers arriving.  There were clashes between the Jewish immigrants and Palestines supported by neighbouring Arab states.

1947

Britain gave up its mandate and the United Nations took over supervision.  The UN suggested two states: one Arab, one Jewish.  The Jews accepted; the Arabs rejected the plan.  David Ben-Gurion declared the foundation of the state of Israel on May 15, 1948.  Egypt, Syria, Lebanon and Jordan invaded but were beaten back.

1949

The Jews had extended, the area proposed for them by the UN.  In 1956, Gamal Abdel Nasser came to power in Egypt, Nasser integrated the armies of Egypt and Syria and nationalised the European-owned Suez canal.

1956

Israel joined with Britain and France and on October 29, 1956, invaded the Sinai peninsula in Egypt.  Later that same year, international pressure forced the Israelis to give up Sinai and the UK and France to remove their troops from the Suez canal.

1964

The Palestine Liberation Organisation (PLO) was founded.  After the debacle of the six-day war, it reformed.  Under the chairmanship of Yasser Arafat, it claimed to be the sole representative of the Palestinian people and it vowed to reclaim their land and destroy the state of Israel.

1967

The six-day war.  Hostilities between Israel and its neighbours continued and both sides built up their military strength.  On June 5, 1967 – Israel launched a ‘preemptive strike’ against the Arab troops along its borders.  Israel seized the Sinai from Egypt, the Golan Heights from Syria, the West Bank and the Old City of Jerusalem from Jordan.  Talks have centred around a return to pre-1967 borders ever since.

1973

The Yom Kippur war, On October 6, 1973 – Syria and Egypt launched a surprise attack on Israeli-held lands to coincide with the Jewish holy day of Yom Kippur.  After initial losses, the Israelis regained nearly all of the territory they occupied during the six-day war.  Syria stationed troops in Lebanon in 1976.

1979

The US combined diplomacy with financial muscle to soften relations between Egypt and Israel.  In 1979, the Egyptian president – Anwar Sadat, signed a mutual recognition pact with Israel and Sinai was returned to Egypt.

1981

Israel formally annexed the Golan Heights.  In response to terrorist attacks on northern towns, Israel invaded Lebanon as far north as Beirut on June 6, 1982.  In 1985, Israel withdrew from most of Lebanon but maintained a ‘security zone’ along the border policed by Israeli soldiers and members of the South Lebanese Army. 

1987

During the early 1980’s, the establishment of Jewish settlements on Palestinian land in the West Bank continued systematically.  In 1987, the Palestinians of the West Bank and Gaza launched the intifada (popular uprising) against Israeli occupation.

1993

The Oslo Accords were agreed, which provided for mutual recognition between the PLO and the state of Israel, and limited Palestinian self-rule in the West Bank and Gaza.  Jordan signed a peace deal with Israel.  May 2000:  Israel withdrew from Lebanon, but Hizbullah guerrillas harried the retreating Israelis, and members of the South Lebanese Army had to flee with their families into Israel.

October 2000

Violence flared across the West Bank and Gaza Strip after Ariel Sharon made a provocative visit to the Haram al-Sharif mosque compound.  Palestinian Authority police traded fire with Israeli soldiers – many were killed, hundreds injured:  most of the casualties were Arabs, The death of 12-year old Palestinian Mohammed al-Durrah shot dead, apparently by Israeli troops, was broadcast around the world.

2000 – 2002

By the end of 2000, over 300 people were dead.  Ariel Sharon became the Prime Minister of Israel in February 2001.  After September 11, violence escalated as Israel pursued its own ‘war on terrorism’.  2002:  Tensions rose and many were killed on both sides when Palestinian militants launched a new wave of suicide bombings and Israel occupied a large part of the West Bank.

2003

The road map peace plan to a two-state solution started with US-backed Mahmoud Abbas becoming Palestinian Prime Minister.  Palestinian militants announced a ceasefire but Israel continued to kill militant leaders.  Mr. Abbas left office after a power struggle with Mr. Arafat.  Israel continued with its West Bank ‘security fence’.  A suicide attack in Haifa prompted Israel to bomb a camp in Syria.

2004

Israel continues building its security fence roughly along its pre-1967 borders but with loops into Palestinian areas.  Ariel Sharon announces a withdrawal from the Gaza Strip and a re-commitment to the biggest Jewish settlements in the West Bank.  Just over 4 million Palestinians, who fled Israeli expansion and the 1967 war, are still in exile in the West Bank, Gaza Strip, Syria, Lebanon, and Jordan.

All about timelines courtesy of http://www.guardian.co.uk/flash/0,,720353,00.html

My personal thoughts in the UN resolution…..

I don’t claim to have the greatest understanding of the Israeli/Arab conflict but I do know that 138 countries in support of a UN resolution that recognizes Palestine as a non-member state with observer status, is a step in the right direction.  I know that the Palestinian and Israeli people want an end to the violence – and this a pro-active step in the peace process.  The countries that voted ‘no’ or that have abstained from voting are sending a message that is counter productive to the peace process and that gives hope for a positive resolution for all involved.  By voting ‘NO’ or abstaining from voting (especially against the majority) you are giving a clear message that you do not want to be inclusive and seem to be against a peaceful resolution.  

The UN has clearly given me hope that a democracy can work for the greater good – now all we have to do is send our positive energies (love, compassion, non-judgement) into the universe and pray that this resolution is the beginning to a long-lasting and tolerant co-existence between Arabs and Israelis.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!